First Love: Pt.7

The First Love series takes a look at how different individuals in The Voice community keep Christ the first love of their lives. Meet: Delilah and Andre Mckay, who are married.

Placing Jesus at the center of our relationship means these 2 things:

1. Even when life gets challenging, we must never lose sight of Jesus, because He was the first choice and will always be the best choice!

2. “Loving Jesus is the best thing we’ve ever done.” Now, we get to love Him together.

How did the chemistry come to be between the two of you? How did you meet?
Andre: I feel that the chemistry came for us​, on our date in the park when the sun was beginning to set, and I could see the orangish-pink sky behind Delilah. As we just sat and talked, and were getting to know each other there was something special that I saw when the sun glared on her. It was something about her hair, eyes and smile that captured my attention ​to complement her gentle and caring personality.​
Delilah: ​​This day at the park was exactly when our chemistry began. The sun was setting and the park was about to close. We were on our way back to the car and I could barely see in front of me. I asked him to lead me because I couldn’t see…he wrapped his left arm around my shoulders​ and led me. I felt safe and knew at​ that moment that he was more to me than a friend.
Andre: We​ met ​at ​church and we got to know each other briefly at the Voice. When
​we ​met, I saw that Delilah ​had a genuine and sincere love for the Lord and wanted to keep her desire for Jesus above all things. I was impressed.

What advice would you give to anyone who might want to get married or is considering?

​Our​ advice is to ​”Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart. Wait, I say, on the Lord.” Psalm 27:14. The wait is not a delay, it is an opportunity to work on “you” so that you can be the husband or wife your spouse will appreciate you for being. ​Do not think​ of waiting as a burden. The wait can be a blessing. It is in the waiting, that you learn to​ rejoice and prepare for the great things God has for you.

Use the waiting time to seek the Lord and know Him. You need His Presence!
Use the waiting time to develop courage and confidence in yourself through the Lord. You need His Character!
Use the waiting time to work on having a healed heart. You need His Love!
Use the waiting time to seek the Lord for His strength and guidance. You need His Power and Provision!


You both serve in ministry here at Mainstream Orlando/ Faith Assembly. How has serving been impactful (in both a good or challenging way) in your relationship

When I met Delilah I was serving as a greeter [ At a Voice Service] and she came through my door 😉.
When we were single and getting to know each other we served, when we dated we served, when we got engaged we served, and now that we are married we serve. I say this because serving is still included in our marriage, and should be done all the more for each other. Serving in ministry together is a blessing. We have a true joy in it and I believe the Lord has blessed us because of it.
We do face the challenge at times, of serving much, and not taking enough time to rest. Serving is exciting, but can be exhausting when doing too much in our own strength. We often, have to pray and identify where we can grow in serving, and what we can release after faithfully completing the work the Lord gave us.
Ministry is to serve one another in love using our gifts/abilities, to meet the needs of others. So, in the marriage we have, we want to continue to be blessed by the Lord. Marriage requires the same attention – selfless giving and reckless abandonment. As husband and wife, we must serve one another in love using our gifts/abilities as well as in the Church. The way in which we started, is how we must continue. Serving one another in love.

What is something that being married has taught you so far?
Marriage is not only about romance or what your spouse can do to make you happy, it is a God-given opportunity to grow deeper in the knowledge, character, and love of Jesus Christ.

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