I can’t count how many times I’ve heard people say, “There’s nobody I could date at The Voice.” I am guilty of this, as well.  It dawned on me how incredibly immature and ignorant that statement is. Let me tell you why. 

Think about it.  If in a large community of believers, there is nobody I can date, where then?  Should we be running to the local bar to look for a spouse?  If the statement is true, then it implies we must go elsewhere to look for a spouse. 

Obviously, the answer is a resounding no. I might sound hyperbolic, but if you genuinely reflect on what you’re saying when you make this statement, I’d dare say you would feel conviction. I did. What I am telling God is, “You’re wrong, God. I am planted in the wrong place.” I don’t know about you, but I like to think I trust unilaterally in God’s sovereignty. That sovereignty is all-encompassing, which means He is sovereign over every aspect of my life, including (and especially) my relationships.

It’s a heart matter. A couple of weeks ago, one of the panelists spoke about “man-made miracles,” and I wonder, are we trying to craft a “man-made miracle” where the glory belongs to us and not God.  My guess is we do not do this purposefully. However, the fact is we do it. In Matthew 12:34, Jesus says, “For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of”; what is in our hearts, and are our words reflecting that? 

What statements about your life are you making that don’t reflect Christ?  Because He wants you to be happy and fulfilled more than you want it. Do your words reflect that? 

Proverbs 18:20-21 says

“From the fruit of their mouth a person’s stomach is filled; with the harvest of their lips they are satisfied. The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” 

Instead of trusting an algorithm in a dating app or church hopping to solve your problems, I dare you to trust God. Trust that He’s planted you, which means that your job is to be still.  Stay and believe that He is God and guess what does not need your help. He only requires our obedience. When that truth takes root in our hearts, our words will reflect that. 

The antidote to unbelief is gratitude. I, for one, am grateful for the community of believers at The Voice. If what you’re looking for isn’t in the body of Christ, then where? 

Stay in the house. Stay grateful. Stay faithful. 

Grace T.F.